Woman (Un)Bound

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I talk to some guys on G+ but rarely with regularity aside from two wonderful men who I've become close to but whose names I will not mention. I like them both and if they were near I'd have the grandest time hanging out with them.

What has that got to do with binders and women? I was reading a thread early on  in G+ about this women in binders that is trending there which is lifted from Romney's answer to a question from the 2nd US Presidential candidate's debate. The binders discussion pointed to sex and being bound as a source of pleasure.

At some point in my G+ life, a guy, let's call him Sado started PM'ing me and it went well until he started mentioning these things:  bending over, handcuffs, and spanking. He became downright creepy in my eyes not because of those words but because he kept trying to inject sensuality and sex into the conversation. Yes I can talk about sex but I have limits. He did apologize when I voiced out feelings I have about inflicting pain for pleasure. While I don't have anything against those who do it, whips, spanking, handcuffs, and ropes are not my cup of tea. 

I can't imagine myself being handcuffed or bound. Sado explained that maybe it's because of my independent nature that being bound would mean surrender. I think he may be right. There was only one time in my life that I consciously decided to surrender to a man and even so I still didn't want to be handcuffed. Thoughts that I didn't tell him were these: more than surrender, I fear becoming helpless and being dependent on another person not necessarily a man; I fear being left there alone and not being able to do anything about it; I fear violence (I've seen it in my family many times). 

I like being physically unbound however binding my partner if he wants to is another story... That says a lot about me being a distrustful person.